Yesterday I had a rough day. It was simply one of those days when nothing seems to go my way and I struggle to stay positive or at the very least keep myself from crying. Long story short, it wasn’t a good day. And after a bad night sleep I woke up with the emotional hangover of a terrible day. Today, however, I decided not to let it ruin my day. So, I got out of bed right away and took a shower as soon as my alarm went off. I knew I was staying home all day but still decided to dress up and look somewhat nice, just for the sake of having the feeling of having accomplished something. It helped, today has been a way better day than yesterday, and it made me wonder: can we be happy even in those bad days?
I like to think that real happiness is deep within us, and it is more of a perpetual state rather than a temporarily superficial content. While there is nothing wrong with feeling content, if you don’t have that deeper sort of permanent happiness then bad days become a pit of despair. I am not here to give you the formula on how to achieve that perpetual happiness, all I am doing here is explore the idea that despite those horrible ugly days, I am still happy.
I once read a quote that said something about being happy with no reasons, and I think what it truly means is not that there is something wrong with having reasons to be happy, like for example I am happy because I have an amazing family, or I am happy because I have the opportunity to pursue a career that I am passionate about. What it means is that you have to make yourself happy. Having an amazing family doesn’t make me happy by default, my choosing to appreciate and love them is what makes me happy. So, in days like yesterday and today, when things seem to be going all wrong and I for some reason woke up sad, I have to choose to bring myself up. Of course, the sadness not just magically disappear but my body won’t just magically produce happiness either. I could let myself be miserable, but I think I –and anyone else– would rather be happy. So I get out of bed, I shower, I talk to my mom, I cook, I watch a funny show, I go for a walk, I eat my favorite food, and I produce the happiness I desire instead of waiting for the circumstances to magically make me happy.